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What are FB's, slams, crams, and all that stuff??When you exchange snail mail letters ("old-fashioned" letters handwritten and sent via postage mail) with your pen pals, you may receive a small, usually handmade booklet with many names and addresses signed in it. It's a friendship book, FB for short.
These usually consist of a small booklet of papers stapled together. There is a great variety of FB's, some are very simple, others are very creative. I have seen people make them out of scrap paper. Others are neatly cut fancy paper and embossed with rubber stamps. It will fit in an envelope. Many pen pals trade FB's. They are passed from person to person. Each person adding her name and address (many times by adding an address label).
This is also called "swapping". Swapping is another name for trading. Most people add information about themselves too such as age, interests, hobbies, etc. Some write if they want new pen pals or swappers, and some add decorations like stickers.
When the book is full, it is mailed to the person it was made for. FB's are started as a way to thank a pal, to look for new pals, or just for fun. It's very interesting to get back a full FB, because you get to see all the places over the world it has been.
There are also other kinds of "FB's" such as friendship sheets, decos, slams, crams, lyrixes, and quotes. FB's require patience because they can take years to fill, so it's best not to do FB's too large because of waiting, and having hard time fitting them in envelopes. My suggestion is start out with a small booklet with about 5 pages. Swappers swap these by amounts ranging from 1-1000 or more. Some pen pallers begin to get bored with FB's and branch out to use their creative skills in other types of FB's like decos, slams, crams, lyrixes, and quotes.
Here is an example of a FB cover:
FB with the date on it means that this FB was created/made then. 'For' means that this FB is made for Sara. 'By' means that Sara has also made this FB. If someone other than Sara had made the FB then it would say FB BY the person who made it. Under Sara's address you see =23=. This means that Sara is 23 years old at the moment. Many times people add their whole birth date or the year they were born. The abbreviations "NPW" and "LLP" come from the words New Pals Wanted and Long Letter Pals.
There are many kinds of abbreviations, and you can see the common ones listed below. In the last page of FB, there is normally a page that states: Full? Return home to (the original owner)! That means that if you are the last one to sign, and there isn't any space left, you have to send the full FB to whoever it's made for.
FRIENDSHIP SHEETS
Friendship sheets are just like FB's, but instead of a booklet format they are just one sheet of paper.
SLAMS
Slams are a bit like FB's. Inside cover is usually maker and owner. On the first page you write in your name and address, or stick your address label, usually next to a number. On each of following pages is a question like what's your favorite band? Or do you want new pen pals? Or look out your window and what do you see? You answer every question and write your answer next to your number. If you didn't sign in with numbers write next to your sign which can be for example a heart or star, but never the same as anyone else's in the slam! The idea is to have a symbol that identifies who you are without having to write out all your info other than on the first page. There are choice slams, fill in the blank slams, sticker slams, puzzle slams, and many more!
CRAMS
Crams are very little pieces of paper and you cram in as many names and addresses as possible, so you don't write any information about yourself or anything that will take up space. Just add your name and address. Crams might be many times just for labels. If you don't have any labels just pass.
DECOS
Decos are like FB's. They are booklets, where everyone has her own page, but there's one difference-In deco you have to decorate your page very beautifully, not just with a sticker or two. The more beautiful the deco is, the better! Use your creativity. If you love scrap booking, this is a great thing for you. Decos usually portray things that you enjoy, but sometimes may have been started with a theme that you need to follow. So if the deco owner loves cats, and the theme is cats, then you need to make your page reflect the overall theme. Just try not to make your pages too thick. Try to remember these items are mailed, and it can become costly in the long run.
LYRIXES or lyricses
Lyrics are FB's where you write one of your favorite song's lyrics on your page or just a part of the song. It depends on the page's size and your handwriting. Of course you write your name and address in this too.
Quotz
Quotz are VERY similar to lyrixes, only with these you sign with movie quotes. Some themes that have been held in the past on other lists are "Disney" "Favorite Actor" "Comedy" and "Hot Celebrity". Now's your chance to use up all of those celebrity magazines in the back of your closet!
When you receive a FB,(as well with slams, decos, lyrixes and crams) there are some basic DO's and Don'ts:
Search some empty space in FB, and write your name and address (and information if you want) there.
After signing read the FB through if there's someone you'd be interested corresponding with. If you'd like to start swapping with someone, but you are beginner and you don't have very many FB's or slams collected, it's best not to start with anyone who is heavy-swapper. Heavy swappers want to swap a lot FB's, or whatever they swap, once. So choose someone who is light-swapper or beginner.
Send it on to another snail mail pal, who isn't already listed.
If you receive a FB, which is full after you sign it, send it to its owner. Usually that person's name is in the cover of FB with words 'for'. Remember! The person, who has made the FB, isn't always the same who it was made for.
Do pass it on as soon as possible; don't let it hang around for months. If you can, send it on within a week.
When a FB is full, you must send it to its owner! Stealing the FB is silly when you can create your own, or have a pal create one for you.
Don't add any extra pages or numbers to avoid sending that FB back to its owner.
Don't remove any pages.
Don't write anything that might hurt someone.
Don't take up too much page space. It isn't nice if you are almost the only person in the FB.
Don't write to someone who doesn't want new pen pals. I am sure you'll find someone else to write.
Abbreviations used on FB's
A/A - Answers all
A/M - Answers most
A/O - Answers only
A/S - Answer some
Addy - Address
BBFN - Bye-bye for now
BD - Birth date
DOB - Date of birth
FB - Friendship book
EMS - E-mail soon
IRC - International reply coupon (you can send them to your Non-USA pals, they are gift certificates for postage stamps, you can get them at larger post offices, just ask!)
ICR - I can return (people who are willing to return the full fb home)
LL - Long letter
LLP - Long letter pals
LLO - Long letters only
LOL - Laugh Out Loud
LSASE - Long self addressed stamped envelope
NNPP - No new pen pals
No chains - Do not send chain letters
NPW - New pals wanted
PC - Post card
ROFL - Rolling On the Floor Laughing
SNNP - Sorry no new pals
SWA - Swaps with all
SS - Swap soon (referring to swapping fbs, slams or crams)
SASE - Self addressed stamped envelope
T/C - Take care
TTFN - Ta ta for now
TTYL - Talk to you later
VP - View card (another name for post card)
W/A - Wedding anniversary
W/B - Write back / Welcome Back
W/S - Write soon
W/W - Worldwide
WBSP - Write Back Soon Please
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Everyone who responds to your post in the pen pal club is not going to be compatible. Don't be afraid to reject a pen pal, but you should always turn the person down in a kind and considerate manner.
There are several polite ways you can turn down a request for a pen pal. Follow these simple guidelines so that you don't hurt anyone's feelings.
If you feel that from their initial contact letter that you just do not have anything in common, or you're just not interested in that particular person, you should send the individual a polite response. The same rule applies to a pen pal you may have been corresponding with in the past, but for whatever reason have decided to stop corresponding. Thank the person for responding to your pen pal post and be honest in your reasoning for not being able to correspond or continue to correspond with them. You can respond with reasons such as having too many responses to your pen pal ad, not having as much in common as you would like, being busier than you were when first corresponding, or your personal choice to the type of person, age, or gender you want to correspond with.
Remember that you shouldn't jump in and try to gain many pen pals, and then find that you can't keep up with it all. That isn't fair to anyone. The idea is to have this be a fun experience for all involved.
Please keep in mind that FrugalVillage.com does try to moderate who is in the club. We currently do not want members that are male or any "lonely hearts" or "looking for love" types. There are plenty of these types of websites, so if this describes you, please look elsewhere. This is a friendly women's group made up of women from all walks of life that wish to meet new pals or trade fun items from all over the world.
FrugalVillage.com recommends that you post a free service email in your post. We do remind you to use common sense, caution and proper conduct in dealing with people over the internet. We'll not be held responsible if anything goes wrong.
Welcome to the pen pal club. The possibilities of fun are endless. Some of us are seasoned swappers while some of us are newbies. Don't be intimidated by all the lingo. (not every pen pal uses it) Everyone was a newbie at one time too.